Also, good for you on finding someone that you believe is “the one”!

You ask, “But how do you know when you find the person?”
This might be impossible to answer, all I can offer is my personal experience.

I used to think marriage was a sham. My own parents divorced when I was in college, and in fact, I was supportive that they do so. I was tired of seeing them so miserable. (I wouldn’t feel the same way today.)

I had a number of bad relationships, and I had a number of good relationships, but I never felt I had met the person I could marry, convinced that I would never be sure they were “the one.”

Until I met my husband. I had gotten so sick of dating, I decided to give up and try to start a band, since music was something I knew I loved. I met Mike, and we started playing out and recording together. We were good friends first, and spent a ton of time together on a platonic level. He saw me muddle through a number of dating disasters before he finally asked me out.

I guess the biggest difference w/ him was that we made a genuine connection that was not initally based on lust, but on mutually shared interests. We just loved being together – and we eventually wondered why it took us so long to figure out that’s what “love” was to us.

I don’t know how anyone else can find their soulmate, and I’ve often thought that there are many soulmates for each person, but you can be separated by time, distance, or miscommunication. I guess that with Mike – it just clicked.

Over the weekend, your post made me think about my marriage. I asked Mike why he thought we were such a good match, he said, “It’s because we connect on every level of human interaction. We are great friends, we share the same interests and values, and we can be romantic and intimate.”

So, people just need to find someone like that of their own…easier said than done I suppose.