My Top 25 posts of 2008!

December 30, 2008          Comments (1)

First off, I want to thank you for reading my blog! It means the world to me!

I’d write my blog if no one read it; however, getting the emails and comments I get and being nominated as a Top 10 GEN Y blog just makes it that much more rewarding!

2008 was an amazing year for me. I became even more convinced (if that’s possible) that MyBodyTutor has the ability to become a real organization and I invested heavily to make this a reality (you’ll see this reality very soon!).

My clients inspire me every single day and there’s not a day that goes by that I’m not grateful for the privilege they’ve given me of being able to do what I love doing. I’ve met some fascinating and amazing people in 2008 and I can’t wait for 2009!

For 2009, I have some really interesting and though provoking posts (I think) planned. I’m really excited to write these posts and I think you’ll really enjoy them!

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I thought it would be fun to have a post with my top 25 posts (in no particular order) of the year based on emails and comments. Of course, my favorite posts of 2008 are about my clients and how amazing they are.

But this list is comprised of your favorite posts! So here we go:


1. Shooting a gun is a lot like launching a business. This sort of hit me when I was blasting away at clay in the Dominican Republic.

2. The problem with most commissioned sales people. Unfortunately, I think most commissioned sales people could care less about anything but their commission.

3. The only business where it’s accepted and encouraged to brag about how much money you make. This hit me as I was working on my biz late at night and I realized every other word out of most rappers is about money and how much they make.

4. Is it that hard to wear gloves? Ugh! This still kills me. My local deli guy couldn’t wear gloves when he was making my sandwich!

5. Crawl before you walk. I get so many emails from people asking me for advice about an idea that needs at least $50k. Test first! This actually became an article in a magazine I write for.

6. How can you snakes on a plane your business? When people are used to something and they keep coming back, don’t change anything…or don’t take away anything. Add!

7. Would you buy a brand new car or a brand new website? If you really and truly believe in what you’re doing the choice is simple.

8. The number one quality we should look for in a president! I think this applies to any important position actually.

9. Will you be missed? I want to have an impact on people! There’s nothing more rewarding than helping people realize their goals and dreams! I can’t think of single better way to judge if you’re having an impact on people than this question.

Life: Business is fun to write about but I love writing about other topics that interest me as well. Just like you must have a holistic and well balanced approach when going after your health and fitness goals, life isn’t just about business or fitness.

10. How can you be a DJ in your life? This is one of my favorite posts.

11.How far will you go to make yourself happy? That is the question!

12. Why people become alcoholics? Big difference between wanting to (and having to!) get drunk on the weekends.

13. The pursuit of happiness is flawed! I examined if pursuing happiness is like being on a never ending hamster wheel to get that next ‘thing’ or for that ‘event’ to happen. Why not be happy now?

14. The two greatest days of my life so far. Once you realize the ‘why’ in your life, you’ll know exactly how I feel!

15. How to tell what someone really cares about! Ever wonder? This is your answer!

16. Why is caring so difficult? The only way to succeed is by caring. If you don’t care…stop what you’re doing!

17. Why you should never hit the snooze button again according to Tiger Woods. This was an extremely popular post and I still get emails about it!

18. What is your definition of success? This took me a long time to realize. Success has nothing to do with money and everything to do with happiness. Unfortunately, I know a lot of wealthy people who are unhappy!

19. Lessons from the happiest 81 year old waitress I’ve ever met! This is special to me for so many different reasons. Again though, what’s the point of everything if you aren’t happy?

20. How to feel like a rock star! Taken straight from my Daily Inspirations – I explore how you can feel incredible!

Relationships: Relationships and dating is fascinating to me. Who you date and who you want to date and who you actually date says a lot about you.

21. Does getting married serve any purpose these days? By far the most controversial post I’ve ever written. Of course, I believe there is a purpose for marriage. It was just some food for thought!

22. Is there really such a thing as soul mates? I used to think so. I don’t know anymore.

23. The definition of a poodle…find out if you’re one! This is something that needed to be said.

24. Why our parents are getting divorced and why you might too! I believe this wholeheartedly! If you’re not truly happy alone, no one will ever be able to make you happy!

Kids: I’m going to be an Uncle and I can’t wait! I can’t wait to see life through his eyes.

25. My first letter to my future nephew or niece. We now know it’s going to be a boy. I made my entire family cry (not at all purposely) from this and I got some really touching emails from you!

Have a happy, healthy and fit New Year and I’ll see you in 2009 ready to go!

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The one and only New Year’s Resolution you should (ever) make!

December 23, 2008          Comments (1)

First off, let’s be honest here. I’m usually hung over on January 1st. So whatever I want to ‘start’ doesn’t begin until January 2nd. But then January 2nd doesn’t feel like a good day because it’s my first day back to whatever it is I’m doing.

This year, January 2nd is on a Friday. Don’t know many people who’ve started worthwhile things on a Friday. Not a good excuse but it’s true.

So I wait. And before I ever started, my resolution has dissolved.

I don’t know many people that have actually followed through on a New Year’s resolution either. Do you? Have you ever?

Largely because most resolutions are simply wishes. Not goals. As we know, a wish is a goal without a plan of action.

But the real reason why most people never make good on their resolutions (or promises to themselves) is because we human beings constantly rationalize. That’s how we make sense of this chaotic and insane world. Thankfully, it’s innate otherwise we wouldn’t be able to function.

Every moment of every day, you’re telling yourself a story of what’s going on around you. Your boss, your friends, your job, your clients, your students and even this very blog post you’re reading!

Either you’re mentally nodding in agreement with what I’m saying (if it fits your world view or how you see things) or you’re shaking your head in disagreement (because this doesn’t fit your world view).

All day long, you’re telling yourself a story of your own actions and rationalizing it against your perceived self (which is your ego). For example, if you think you’re a very ambitious and motivated person then anything you do that doesn’t fit into ‘being ambitious and motivated’ like watching endless hours of TV, or procrastinating for days on something pressing then you’ll rationalize that.

“Well, I need a break! I don’t want to over work myself, etc., etc, etc!”

Maybe if you’re self aware and honest enough with yourself you’re able to see right through your own crap.

Or maybe not and you’re delusional. As I said in my post about ‘How to tell what someone really cares about’ some people believe that there is no relationship between what a person is and what a person does. This is bull secretion. Unless you are schizophrenic, you become your actions.

So what to do?

I think the only resolution you should make is to be brutally honest with yourself.

But of course, if you’re not, you’ll rationalize that too.

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1 huge annoucment and 2 small ones (The all new MyBodyTutor is coming soon)

December 17, 2008          Comments (1)

We’ll start with the huge announcement first:

My sister is having a boy!!! Early May can’t come soon enough. (I’m sure she feels the same way.) I figure we’ll start training when he’s 3 months old and we’ll add weights to the mix once he’s 2 years old.

The first small announcement is:

I joined Twitter. A few of my clients strongly encouraged me to join. I’m doing this more of an experiment because I really don’t understand the purpose of Twitter (the way most people use it). So I’m going to try to make all of my ‘tweets’ as they call it, have some sorts of value…

Follow me! My thingy is

(I’m going to do an entire post on my thoughts on Twitter.)

The second small announcement is:

The all new MyBodyTutor is coming soon. I keep saying that but it really is. We’re testing and debugging and tweaking and doing all the final (and necessary) things before launch.

I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again. I am a perfectionist when it comes to certain things. (I always knew being a perfectionist was a good thing!) I’ve put my blood, sweat, and sleepless nights into this and I want it to be as great as it can be. Actually, I want it to be flawless.

When you have the luxury and ability to self-fund your company you don’t have to answer to anyone. If I want to wait until I feel everything is perfect I can! I don’t have deadlines. The only deadlines I have are self imposed ones.

Even if it’s not ‘smart’ for the business; whatever that means. A VC-funded company would say get it done – no matter what – and your clients will deal with it. They’ll get over the imperfections.

My clients, I think, would be even more than forgiving! That’s not the point. I think it’s the attitude of: Grow! Grow! Grow! At all costs. Worry about the business first then worry about your clients.

But my clients deserve my best attempt at perfect. Why? They allow me to do what I love doing!

I want it to be perfect for my clients because they are my business! The notion of ‘losing 1 customer to get 10’ is not my style. You can never, ever, forget the person that brought you to the dance.

I’m not even close to the dance yet. I’m not even close! But we’re getting there. We’re headed in the right direction and that’s what counts. Step by step.

The new website is truly how I think of my company. It accurately reflects my vision for MBT. Everything from the colors to the logo to the wording to the pictures on the sides to the case studies to the emails to the application to everything I’ve obsessed over!

We’re not just building a front-end site. That’s been done for a little while already.

We built a custom application from the ground up because there is nothing out there like this. This is the main reason why redoing our website took so long. I refused to compromise on one single thing.

The application is incredible. It’s truly first class. The functionality is amazing. The intuitiveness built into it is something we worked very hard on too. And I can’t wait to show it off to my clients. I know they’re going to love it!

What the application allows me to do is to take this tiny little company and turn it into an organization and most importantly it makes the client experience 100% better than it is now and allows me to better serve them.

(I’m going to write a post that details exactly what the new website has once it’s up.)

In the mean time, I’d like to thank my amazing web team, TerraFrame, for working so hard! We’re getting there…

Stay tuned…

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Slumdog Millionaire and the obligation we have

December 15, 2008          Comments (0)

A few weeks ago, I saw the movie Slumdog Millionaire which I highly recommend. It’s a very graphic and sometimes disturbing but very powerful story about a teenager from India who became a contestant on the Indian version of “Who Wants to be a Millionaire?

When the 18 year old is one question away from answering the final question and the show breaks for the night, the police arrest him on suspicions of cheating. They don’t understand how he knows all of the answers being that he’s an orphan from the slums of Mumbai.

The movie is about his tragic experiences and how and why he knew the answers he did.

During the movie, I kept thinking about how lucky I am! The opportunities and privileges we have are endless.

The opportunities to be or do anything you want have never been greater. I don’t care how badly you think you have it.

Yet, it seems as though more and more people feel sorry for themselves. So many people seem less than thrilled with their lives and jobs.

The tools are endless, the wealth of knowledge is staggering and the amounts of people out there that can (and want to!) help you get to where you want to be are in abundance.

There is no excuse for you not to have your dream life. Your dream relationship. Your dream job. So what if you fall short? If you aim for the stars and reach the moon that ain’t so bad.

In fact, I feel it’s an obligation for you to at least try. How can you not? How can you not go after your dreams?

But still it’s so easy to blame someone or something for how bad you have it.

Maybe we have too many opportunities? Are we too lucky? Are we too comfortable?

Is it easier for someone like Eminem to become ‘Eminem’ because he wasn’t giving up a six-figure job. He wasn’t going against the grain. There were no expectations for him to be successful.

Do people who have nothing to lose have an advantage over those who have something to lose?

I get emails constantly from people who want to switch careers. But they have endless excuses because they feel they have too much to lose. And because of that they have endless rationalizations.

So essentially, they believe they have too many opportunities and too many privileges.

No matter what you have to lose, as far as I know, you only get one shot on this Earth. I don’t remember ever being here before. You might as well make the best of it, right?

And there is only reason you won’t become the person you want to become.

Because of the limitations you set on yourself.

Limitations = excuses = rationalizations = never getting to where you truly want to be.

The question isn’t if the rationalizations will happen. The question is: are you going to be brutally honest with yourself.

Only you are holding yourself back no matter how much you think you have to lose.

Only I am holding myself back.

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A post on tipping because ‘Tis the season and being nice all 4 seasons!

December 11, 2008          Comments (2)

It’s that time of year again. To tip everyone for doing (or going above and beyond) their job. I believe in tipping very generously because I used to be a waiter and a caddy.

In the service industry there is nothing more frustrating than dealing with someone who works you to death…just because they can.

However, I think it’s just as bad when people in a service industry believe they can do nothing and expect a tip.

Tipping is fascinating to me because it’s a measure of a person’s integrity. Especially, if it’s a one shot tip like going to a random restaurant in a different city.

If you’re picking up the tab no one knows what you’re leaving except the server. If someone else is paying, you have no idea what they’re leaving, and they know that. The old “if no one sees, it doesn’t count.”

If you’re in a group, no one wants to be labeled as cheap so they’ll tip well. “Sure, what’s an extra few bucks?!”

But you better believe when it’s just the server and the customer – the real person comes out! I’ve caddied for multi-millionaires who were so cheap it’s incredible. And these were guys that paid thousands and thousands of dollars to belong to a country club.

The sad part is these guys were hated. It’s one thing to be cheap but it’s another to be a complete a$$hole and cheap! And it’s just completely dumb to be cheap and an a$$hole at your own country club where everyone knows exactly who you are!

Interestingly enough, all the cheapskates seemed miserable with their life.

If you’re going to join a country club but not be able to tip well, you shouldn’t belong in the first place.

One of the main reasons why I did well as a caddy and a waiter is because I enjoying going above and beyond for people. I like making people happy. It’s fun.

It’s also one of the reasons why I wanted to be in a B to C business as opposed to a B to B business. I love dealing directly with the end users.

I just got ‘the’ holiday card from my building with 25 people I’ve never heard of. It turns out that being a good doorman and building a (good) business aren’t so different after all.

A doorman knows everything about our lives; probably a little too much!

A good doorman actually takes an interest in his customers. He cares about you (his customer). And it’s so easy for him to care because he can see what’s going on in your life.

He knows:

What you are doing and where you are going. Your work hours better than anyone.

Your favorite delivery food and how often you eat it. If you exercise.

When you go shopping and what you are ordering via mail. Your friends and family and how often you hang out with them.

Who you are seeing (and who you shouldn’t be seeing).

His job is to make your life as easy as possible by helping you solve little problems. Whether it’s holding packages, letting workers up to your apartment, holding doors open, or whatever the case may be.

If he’s a superstar, he’ll take the time to learn about you, making sure to establish that emotional connection. He’ll go out of his way to greet you in the morning. He’ll run to open the door for you.

He acknowledges you and shows his appreciation and leaves you with a lasting impression as you take on the day.

In fact, a good doorman is sincere 365 days a year 24/7 since the day you moved in. Sure, we all have our bad moments. You make it up next time, though. We are all forgiving.

But, doesn’t it make you cringe when all of the sudden your doormen are being extra nice?

When a doorman just expects tips just because he’s a doorman and is being extra nice just because it is holiday time people sense that in .1 seconds. If he really cared about serving people and wanted to make a difference, people would sense that too. They’d appreciate it. And guess what? They’d tell their neighbors how much they love the guy and make sure he was well taken care of.

Here’s the key to being a good doorman: Act like a caring person who likes to go above and beyond.

Here’s the key to being a superstar doorman: Actually, BE a caring person who likes to go above and beyond. (If you’re not, you’re in the wrong business. Because it’s much easier to be than to act.)

Here’s a post I wrote almost two years ago about my terrible doormen who thought everything was coming to them!

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What we can all learn from Britney Spears

December 4, 2008          Comments (1)

I love all types of music. I can go from listening to Jane Says by Jane’s Addiction (actually, I can’t get enough of this song lately) to Britney Spears (what can I say? It’s good gym music). I’m intrigued by her and unfortunately, she has turned herself into a ‘Paris Hilton’ type which is not smart because she has more to offer the world than just being fascinating.

So, I was looking forward to watching her MTV documentary and I finally got around to it. What a disappointment!

Here, she had a GIANT opportunity to totally clear the air and dispel all rumors and beliefs. No paparazzi, no reporters trashing her, nothing. Her and me! And I felt like she didn’t say anything! It wasn’t revealing, whatsoever.

I was hoping for a little more wisdom; a little more insight. Instead, she broke down talking about how lonely it is to be her. About how she wants to do nothing more than make music and dance yet 10 minutes later she said all she wants to do is be secluded on an island with a man she loves and her kids.

I wanted more. It almost seemed like the guy asking her these questions was probing too. But nothing!

I think there’s a huge paradox of being one of the most popular celebrities in the world.

On one hand, you expect her (and almost want her) to be this Goddess and ultra confident and untouchable superstar. After all, she’s Britney Spears. Yet, on the other hand, you want to see some vulnerability because it shows that she’s a real person.

I wrote about this with 50 Cent. If he was rapping about being lonely and Toyota’s it just wouldn’t be alluring. That’s why he can get away with rapping about how much money he is making off of his own fans. In fact, we like it!

I don’t care if 50 Cent or Britney Spears are lonely. That’s not what makes them intriguing. I only know each of them as international icons which is exactly why it was so fascinating to watch Britney self-destruct.

In the end, Britney left me feeling that she still has major issues to work through. She still doesn’t know who she is. And it showed. Because I have no idea who she is and she could have totally changed that after an hour of uninterrupted television.

Instead, it seemed as though Elizabeth Arden (the company that puts out her fragrance and sponsored this hour of mindless television) forced her to do this so they can sell a lot her perfume this holiday season. I think (and I could be very wrong), everyone at one point or another has fantasized about what it would be like to be famous.

Unfortunately, in this one hour of television I only learned two things. Always be you. No matter what. (Even if there’s not much depth to you.) And although I could care less about fame it’s not nearly as appealing as it seems.

The ironic part of all of this is that her fragrance is called ‘Fantasy.’

Sadly, about 15 months ago I thought I gave Britney some sound advice. Evidently, she’s not a slave for me and doesn’t read my blog!

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Think Different

December 2, 2008          Comments (2)

My favorite Apple Computer Ad campaign by far:

Here’s to the crazy ones.

The misfits.
The rebels.
The troublemakers.
The round pegs in the square holes.
The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules.

And they have no respect for the status quo. You can praise them, disagree with them, quote them, disbelieve them, glorify or vilify them.

About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things.

They invent. They imagine. They heal.
They explore. They create. They inspire.
They push the human race forward.

Maybe they have to be crazy.

How else can you stare at an empty canvas and see a work of art?

Or sit in silence and hear a song that’s never been written?

Or gaze at a red planet and see a laboratory on wheels?

We make tools for these kinds of people.

While some see them as the crazy ones, we see genius.

Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.

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