I’ve received a lot of email in the past few weeks about my post regarding marriage. My ‘does marriage serve any purpose these days’ post has 85 comments and counting. Obviously, it’s a topic we’re all interested in.
In fact, I’m fascinated by it. The number one question I got is, “Why are you writing about marriage?”
Because I think it’s remarkable when someone finds the person that they want to spend the rest of their life with. I mean, it took me months and months just to find a web designer/developer I liked and that didn’t even work out. I can only imagine how one must feel when they find the person that they want to spend the rest of their life with.
And that is exactly why I don’t understand why marriage makes sense. However, one day, I truly hope to feel what you married folks do. But until then, I’ll keep it real.
Whenever I’m with a married couple, I often wonder if they are each other’s soul mates or if they settled? Did they really try to find the person that would make them the happiest they could possibly be? Did they try to find their best possible match?
As one reader said, “You need to choose your partner out of love and respect, rather than convenience and security.”
But some people are willing to fight for their happiness way more than others. Most people aren’t willing to risk comfort and security for excitement and thrills whether it’s for love or a career. I happen to believe that settling in any facet of your life is a sure way to be unhappy. That’s unforgivable.
Certainly, telling someone you think that they settled is not something for you to do. It’s their life and if they are happy then that’s all that matters. But how happy are they is what I’m really curious to know. Because as we know; happiness is relative.
There are 3 major questions we all have to answer in life:
How you spend your life, who you spend your life with and where you want to do the first two.
I’m going to leave the third question alone for a while because that’s highly influenced by who you choose to spend your life with. I think who you choose to marry obviously says a lot about you. Actually, it says everything about you (along with how you choose to spend your life). Sometimes, you may wonder what in the world does she/he see in that guy/girl?
Or, you may see a couple that is very unbalanced looks wise. One partner might be a lot more attractive than the other. But of course, looks aren’t everything. I’ve met plenty of poodles* that can hardly talk about anything besides their bags, nails and dog.
But then you always see the fat wealthy business men with their trophy wives. I once read an interview with Melania Trump, and they asked her if she would have married Donald Trump, if he wasn’t so rich. She replied, something along the lines of, “Would he have married me if I wasn’t so beautiful?”
As they say though, “A ten never marries a one.” Which is to say that you get what you are.
Love is blind, of course – but usually for a reason.
*Future blog post
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