When I was a little kid I always thought adults had it all figured out. That they didn’t think about the things kids do. You know. They were adults. Everything is all good!
I think every kid believes this. I can vividly remember dreaming about what I’d be like when I was 26. Kids believe adults are more refined than children.
What I’ve learned is that adults are children with more responsibility…and maybe perspective and insight…and maybe not.
I think we become who we are at a very young age. Curious people will for, the most part, be curious their entire lives. Warm people will be warm. Trusting people will be trusting. Assholes, for the most part, will be assholes. Ambitious will be ambitious…
But as we grow up many of us lose our idealism. We forget about our dreams. We forget what we really want for ourselves.
“Reality” sets in. I’ve realized that reality is an illusion. You can make your reality whatever you want it to be. But unfortunately, as an adult fear becomes a dominant part of our life.
When you’re a kid you don’t think about reality. You’re fearless, for the most part.
For some, what other people might think plays an even bigger role and drives us in directions we never even wanted to go in.
But when when we’re young, we all think we’re invincible.
I think about how I used to drive as a high school and college student and I can’t believe how much of a maniac I was. I was fearless. Nothing can happen to me! Nothing can happen to my friends!
I look at my brother in law who just bought a quad. For his birthday my sister got him this awesome remote control car. He will always be a kid at heart. And I love that.
So what happens to so many of us? Why do so many people tense up? Harden up? Lose our ability to have fun? Become numb?
And ironically, when we’re kids we’re always looking to the future. We can’t wait for it!
So, as I turn 26 today, I think there are two important lessons that I want to remind you (and really myself) of:
One: The grass is always greener on the other side. The problem with always looking on the other side is that you never appreciate what you have on your side! I think being grateful is extremely important to your happiness. After all, it’s impossible to be grateful and unhappy at the same time! This is exactly why I ask my clients to tell me 3 things they are grateful for every night. (Although it has nothing to do with their health and fitness it has everything to do with it!)
Two. Happiness (which is what it’s all about) is right now! Not later! When we’re kids and even adults, many of us live for that person or thing or event to make us happy. “I’ll be happy when…”
But if you’re not happy now, what makes you think you’ll be happy later? And when you’re looking to the future to make you happy, you’re not living life now!
And before you know it, you’ll be an old man or woman wondering where the heck your life went…
And that thought makes me act like the idealistic and fearless boy I always want to be!
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